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2x10 Relationship Building

The 2x10 strategy is a simple but effective relationship-building intervention that can help improve student attendance, behavior, and engagement.

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Written by Emily Orngard
Updated over a week ago

It’s based on the idea that spending two minutes per day for 10 consecutive school days in positive, non-academic conversation with a student can significantly strengthen their connection to school.

How to Use 2x10 for as an Attendance Intervention:

  1. Identify the Student(s)

    • Choose a student (or small group of students) who has frequent absences or is disengaged.

    • Prioritize students who may feel disconnected or lack strong relationships with adults at school.

  2. Commit to Daily Conversations

    • Spend 2 minutes each day talking to the student, for 10 school days in a row.

    • Focus on non-academic topics—sports, hobbies, family, music, movies, or anything that interests them.

    • Keep the conversation light and student-led.

  3. Be Consistent & Intentional

    • Choose a time and setting where the student is comfortable (e.g., before class, during transitions, or lunch).

    • Avoid pressuring them about attendance; instead, focus on building trust and showing you care.

  4. Monitor Changes in Attendance & Engagement

    • Track their attendance before, during, and after the 10-day period.

    • Look for improvements in participation, mood, or willingness to attend class.

  5. Extend & Reinforce the Connection

    • After the 10 days, continue checking in periodically.

    • Celebrate small wins, like showing up on time or attending more frequently.

    • Involve other trusted adults (teachers, staff) in relationship-building.

Why It Works

  • Many students with poor attendance feel disconnected from school.

  • A trusted relationship with an adult can make them feel valued and more likely to attend.

  • It’s low-effort but high-impact, requiring just 20 minutes total per student over two weeks.

Conversation Starters for 2x10

Here are some questions and topics to help keep the conversation natural and engaging:

General Interests

  • What’s something fun you did recently?

  • What kind of music do you like? Any favorite artists?

  • If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

  • What’s a TV show or movie you’ve watched more than once?

Hobbies & Activities

  • What do you like to do when you're not in school?

  • Do you play any sports or video games? Which ones?

  • If you could learn a new skill instantly, what would it be?

School & Future Goals

  • If you could design your perfect school schedule, what would it look like?

  • What’s a subject or activity at school that you enjoy the most?

  • Do you have any dreams for the future—like a job, place to travel, or goal?

Fun & Random

  • Would you rather have a pet dragon or a pet unicorn?

  • What’s the best snack of all time?

  • If you had a time machine, where (or when) would you go?


Tracking Attendance & Engagement

To measure whether the 2x10 strategy is making a difference, you can track:

1. Attendance Data

  • Compare attendance before, during, and after the intervention.

  • Look for changes in lateness, absences, or class participation.

2. Engagement & Behavior Notes

  • Is the student talking to you more?

  • Are they participating in class more?

  • Do they seem happier or more comfortable at school?

3. Student Feedback

  • After 10 days, casually ask how they’re feeling about school.

  • You can say: “I really enjoyed our talks. Has anything changed for you at school?

2x10 Attendance & Engagement Tracking Sheet

Student Name: ________________________

Grade/Section: ________________________

Start Date: ___________ End Date: ___________


Daily Interaction Log

Day

Date

Topic of Conversation

Student’s Mood/Engagement

Notes (Behavior, Participation, Attendance)

1

2

3

4

5

6

7

8

9

10

Attendance Tracking Before & After Intervention

Week

Days Present

Days Absent

Days Tardy

Notes

Week Before 2x10

Week 1 (During)

Week 2 (During)

Week After 2x10


Reflection & Observations

  • Did the student’s attendance improve? (Y/N)

  • Did they seem more engaged in conversations? (Y/N)

  • Any noticeable changes in behavior or attitude?

  • Next steps (Continue check-ins? Involve others?)


Teacher/Staff Notes:




Final Thoughts:

  • Consider continuing informal check-ins if positive changes are seen.

  • Share observations with other teachers or support staff if needed.

  • Celebrate small wins—any improvement in attendance or engagement is progress!

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